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The relationship doesn’t feel right, but how do I know it’s domestic abuse?

An abusive relationship doesn’t always mean there is physical violence. Abuse can take place in various forms, such as: emotionally, financially, sexually and digitally. If you are worried about your relationship but unsure if it is abuse, this quiz may help you identify any abusive characteristics.

  • Has your partner tried to keep you from contacting or meeting family or friends?
  • Has you partner ever forced you to participate in sexual activities?
  • Does your partner regularly belittle, criticise or humiliate you?
  • Has your partner ever threatened to hurt you, your children or themselves if you leave?
  • Are you afraid to disagree with your partner?
  • Has you partner ever made it difficult or stopped you from going to a job/college/training?
  • Has you partner ever deliberately destroyed you possessions?
  • Has your partner ever hurt your pets or threatened to kill them?
  • Does you partner control the finances, make you account for ever penny, purposely keep you short of money, making it difficult to buy necessary items for you or the children, or making you take out loans?
  • Does you partner constantly phone or message you? Do they regularly check up on you when you’re not together?
  • Does you partner go through your phone or laptop to see who you’ve been speaking to, or demand your passwords?
  • Has your partner ever used your immigration status to control you?
  • Are you ever afraid of your partner?
  • Does your partner blame you for their behaviour?
  • Has your partner ever kicked, hit or choked you, or threatened to do so?

If you have answered ‘yes’ to one or more of the questions, than you may be experiencing a controlling and abusive relationship. Its important to find support if you are concerned about your relationship.  Reach out to people you know and trust. If you feel that you can’t speak to someone you know, or need additional support, you can contact a member of staff at Cuanlee on our 24 hour helpline, 021-4277698.